The Great Disconnect

All you have to do is hang around a church long enough and you’ll see people come to Jesus, be really excited, get involved serving the Lord, and then after a while they begin to fizzle out in their passion for the Lord and His mission. They become discouraged, discontent, and ultimately disconnected.

At Open Arms Community Church we’ve been doing a series of messages on “Growing Closer To God”. Last weekend we addressed the role of prayer, the week before that the role of Bible reading, and this coming week the role of Community.

Whether out of emotions or just plain laziness, we can watch “the great disconnect” slowly begin to take place in the life of a Christian. It’s not an overnight thing. It’s like the song by Casting Crowns called “Slow Fade”. We don’t fall away from Jesus in a day. It takes time and little backward steps, small compromises here and there, and the next thing you know we don’t feel or hear Jesus anymore, we don’t have the passion and compassion we used to have. The love has grown cold toward the Lord, my church family, and the lost.

How does it happen?

As I mentioned it could be emotional. I may have some negative feelings (offense, depression, unmet expectations, etc) that cause me to become focused on me and how I feel and less on the Lord and what He thinks and says.

It could also be busyness. I may be so overloaded and busy in my schedule that I just “don’t have the time” to read my Bible, pray, or go to cell group or church, or even if I have the time, I’m so worn out I “don’t feel like” going today. Then today turns into next week, next month, and pretty soon, not at all.

It may also be laziness. I don’t have the desire and self-discipline to get out and do. This has a lot to do with an indifferent attitude toward the things of God (a lack of the Fear of the Lord). We don’t value the things of God as of first importance. We would say that they’re important to us, but by our actions we see that doing what is easy and self-gratifying is more important.

There are three areas where “the great disconnect” can start and if not dealt with it will take over all three.

First, time with God in his Word (reading our Bible). If we become slack in connecting with God in his Word then we will be spiritually malnourished. Jesus said, “man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds forth from the mouth of God” (Matthew 4). If we are not feeding on God’s word faithfully you can easily understand the negative effect; go try to function every day, doing all you do, with just one meal a day (or week) for a year. It won’t happen. This is one area of “the great disconnect”.

Second, time with God in prayer. As the Word of God (Bible) is food for our spirit, prayer is like breath or water to the body. The Bible uses symbols of air and water for the Holy Spirit. What happens if our body/flesh doesn’t get air or water? Spiritually speaking the same result takes place to our spirit/relationship with God if we do not spend time in prayer (which is simply communication/conversation with God… a breathing/drinking in of His presence and power in our life). You can see how without this area being strong and healthy, without drinking/breathing in enough we will suffer weakness, disorientation, and even death.

Third, time with God’s people (Community). Community, sharing life together, is no easy thing. It’s hard. People let us down, hurt our feelings, demand time and resources from us. People are weird and do things differently. Community is tough, but it is where God teaches us, stretches us, and molds us beyond our self. We learn to see things we didn’t see before, and even things we’ve seen before we learn to see differently. We learn to love differences, we learn to forgive and be patient, we learn to think of others and sacrifice to bless and help others. There is so much that Community accomplishes in us.

When my son, Mike, had a broken leg the doctor told us that after a certain point in the process of healing he would need to start walking on the leg while it was still in the cast. The doctor said that this would strengthen the bone because of the pressure. That’s kind of what Community is like. It puts pressure on us (broken people) to help us heal properly, healthy, and strong. God doesn’t want us to just get a little bit of healing. He wants us to be functional.

Lastly, fourth, is time in God’s work/mission (ministry/mission). Unless we’re serving the Lord we’re serving ourselves. Unless we’re involved serving the Lord we will loose our passion and compassion. We may feel pity toward people and their circumstances, but we will not be inclined to get involved in helping and being part of the solution.

Let’s face it ministry/mission is not easy. It’s hard work, it’s difficult, it’s sometimes painful, it’s inconvenient, and it regularly costs something, but it’s here that God helps us experience life to the full, life beyond me. It’s hear that I find true life, a life worth living. It’s in these hard and difficult places that I grow and am stretched and become so much more than I ever would just living for me/self. There is something about giving of my time, energy, talent, and money that changes me, grows me, in a way that nothing else will.

You can’t separate any one of these components. They are all important.

What is the fruit of “the great disconnect”?

Usually people who become disconnected from God, His mission, and His people become discouraged, disgruntled/bitter/critical, cynical, self-absorbed, skewed in perception and perspective, and begin to get so disoriented to God that they have a hard time finding their way back if they ever do at all. They often end up laying all blame on others (the church people, the church leadership, all Christians, etc.) and rarely ever take any kind of personal responsibility for their condition and thus are rarely inclined to take the necessary steps and make the necessary changes and sacrifices to restore themselves into right relationship. The fault is always everyone else. The weird thing here is the lack of common sense… how come it’s the people that do/give the least that scream the most? And it’s those who have the most that give the least?

We begin to fall prey to satan’s strategies to get us to be so consumed with ourselves that we miss all that God wants to do in and through us, thus widening the gap.

Remember, satan prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour (1Peter 5). I learned some time ago that lions can’t distinguish the individual parts of a group/herd, so they will stalk a heard keeping their eye on the blob (herd) and watch for an individual animal to become separated/disconnected from the group, and then they will attack that single animal rather than the whole herd.

Change starts with a single step. We have a gracious, merciful, and compassionate loving heavenly Father who is very forgiving and runs after us with open arms. God wants us to see our condition and what got us there and make the changes to walk right with Him.

It will not be an overnight fix, but it can start now, with a simple prayer and decision.

If we stick it out, our testimony will be one that can be used to encourage others who have fell prey to “the great disconnect”.

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BALANCE

We hear it everyday. Live whole heartedly for Jesus! Be passionate for Christ! In fact it is written, “Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.” Romans 12:11

But we’re also told that Jesus came to give us life to the full, and that we’re to enjoy life, and that following the teachings of Jesus is “easy and light” compared to the teachings of other religious leaders.

So, why are so many Christians worn out, burned out, miserable people with no joy or fulfillment? Why do so many feel so wasted and wanting to quit?

One word… BALANCE. This of course is an over simplification.

The truth is there is a balance to it all, but I must say something before I talk about the balancing aspect of the Christian life… most “Christians” are not following Christ, and this is reason #1 why they are all of the above descriptives.

I do not say this lightly, nor do I say it condemningly. The truth is most American Christians have bought into something Jesus didn’t come to offer… Religion. The truth is most American Christians approach living for Jesus (True Biblical Christianity) for something far less and harder to live (a religion).

See, God never intended for us to add a new set of believes and new set of religious and moral behaviors to our pre-existing way of life. He always intended for our life to be completely changed.

It’s this religious approach (adding a few religious and moral behaviors to a pre-existing lifestyle) that has ruined so many of us. We honestly can’t figure out how to do all Jesus told us to do and still keep up the other lifestyle too. It wears us out and kills us. We think, “Jesus lied when he said his yoke (teachings) is easy and his burden is light.” But, we’re wrong.

Jesus’ teachings are easy to live out when it’s your lifestyle, not just a religious addition to your present lifestyle.

So, this is reason #1 why so many people feel so badly about their experience with Christianity.

But, reason #2 is imbalance, though this is less experienced than #1, but it does happen.

People get so focused on serving Jesus, being passionate about the mission, studying God’s word, winning people to Jesus, serving people, and so on that they miss Jesus’ M.O. (Method of Operation).

Jesus did say he lived to do the Fathers will solely, but we also know that while Jesus and many other Bible characters took following God seriously they also enjoyed life.

Part of this was learning to find joy no matter where you are and what you’re facing… Paul talks about this in 1Timothy 6. So, it’s a mindset/attitude.

But, there is also the reality that everything they did was done in the context of community (sharing life together).

We see much of their work for the Kingdom of God being done as a group, so there is a sense of community among the workers. We see much of the miracles of Jesus taking place as he was going about his business from one day to the next. It’s interesting, but it’s not the norm that Jesus sought out the sick… they sought him out while he was in their town.

It was in the midst of an open-air seminar that Jesus turned around and performed the miracle of feeding the multitudes. It was in route on a business trip that Jesus calmed a storm and healed a woman with an issue of blood. Peter was hungry, waiting on lunch, and talking with God when he had a vision and was told to go witness to the non-Jew Cornelius. Paul was in a shipwreck on his way to trial when he survived a snake bite and then healed many island people. David was simply bringing some supplies to his brothers, who were at war, when he ended up killing Goliath. Moses was simply shepherding his sheep, just like normal, when he encountered the burning bush. And on and on it goes.

The balance we have to find is one where this supernatural spirituality is lived out in everyday life. We are human beings and meant to rest and laugh and so on.

So, two things… 1) Stop living a Christian religion where God is simply an addition to your already busy and hectic lifestyle (usually contradictory too) and 2) Start renewing our mind with God’s truth and begin to see and live things from his perspective.

The Best Part

As a person who claims to be a follower of Jesus I have to regularly evaluate my life with Jesus, as it is written to “Test yourselves to see if you are STILL in the faith.”

I have to ask the tough question of, “Am I living up to the commitment I made to Jesus?” I have to honestly evaluate whether I’m the real deal, or just a hypocrite.

Jesus said, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness…”

Do I seek Jesus and his way above all other things, or do I put OTHER things FIRST?

Jesus said, “If you love me you’ll obey my commands.”

I say I love Jesus, but do I really? What am I saying and proving by my actions daily? Am I showing love toward God?

Jesus said, "Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me.”

Is there anyone or anything that I love (prioritize/pursue/live for) more than Jesus? Do I take the time to “take up my cross”, in other words consider my life and the things in it that need to change, and then make those changes no matter how painful? Do I make the time, do I put forth the energy and effort, do I make the sacrifice to grow in my faith and be more like Jesus?

Jesus said, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

Am I passionate and zealous in living for Jesus or am I half-hearted about it? Do I diligently pursue God and his plan for my life? When I obey Jesus and follow him, am I doing it because I really want to or because I have to (it’s my religious obligation)? Am I really living FOR Jesus, or do I still live for myself?

God said, “Out of all your gifts you shall present every offering due to the LORD, from all the best of them, the sacred part from them.”

Is God getting my best or my leftovers? Is he number one in my life, the one I truly live for, or is he just a hobby? Am I taking the BEST of ALL God has given me, and giving it to Him (The best of my time, money, talents, energy, etc.)?

These are questions that no one can answer for me, except me, and they must be answered.

For too long people have been able to just attend church and live life any way they want, but at some point we have to say, “Enough is enough!”

When will we really care enough to be the real deal and to make following Jesus (which we claim to be) THE priority in our life, so much so that we will make the commitment and sacrifice to personally grow, becoming more like Jesus every day, and reaching out to those who don’t know him with the love and truth of Jesus?